I’ve been reading a few books on self help for a while now, one of those which has made a big impression on me is Intimate Connection by David Burns, what stood out was the fact that I could relate very much to author of the book who came from an analytical mind, he didn’t have any success with women until 26, and slowly learnt how to do so by treating himself with love and dignity, he says most people who have no love in their life seek out a partner who will end their years of misery, but what tends to happen is that their needyness and desperation is apparant to the other person and they run a mile.
What I’ve been doing is putting myself on the backseat, not putting my needs first before everyone else, I do things to impress others, or laugh at other peoples jokes, or be a spectator and look to others to make me happy, and not to enough to humour myself and treat myself as the most important person in the world.
So anyway, I’m into the first few chapters like maybe 1/6 of the way there, really enjoying this book.
One of the things I’m doing is learning spanish, I’ve read elsewhere that learning a new skill is good for bulding self esteem as it allows you to take your mind off your daily routine.
Also learning a new language is like a new voice for you to express yourself, can you imagine practising a new language and making a point of not learning the negative expressions, and allowing yourself to only express positivity??!!?