I’ve been out Monday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Sunday.
Monday
Good Salsa class, probably the best dancer in the class, got 4 dances after class. Approached lots of girls myself and got good reactions
Wednesday
Went on a below par salsa class and was bored out of my mind, gave off a bored vibe and this translated into bad dances, had 3 dances and wasn’t very happy.
Thursday
Had 5 dances and a decent salsa class. Was a lot better than Wednesday but not as good as Monday, had a French girl very interested in me and should have exploited that, but wanted to get dances
Friday
Did not do any cold approaches, despite positive, fired up start, noticed weird phenomena of girls checking me out, got an ego boost from this but at the same time stifled me from approaching and didn’t do much. Left home with the resolve to be more proactive.
Sunday
Did not approach and felt like my state was dwindling, however when I started doing 2 cold approaches by myself my state went up bit by bit but not many people out to practice the approaches.
What have I learnt? (what works and what doesn’t)
When I get encouragements from people I flow into character really well, such as compliments from girls and wings. I hesitate a lot before approaching my first few sets, once I do though, I get into a good momentum. sometimes I doubt myself in my ability to converse, however compared to other guys I’d have to say there’s not anything much special to say. I found that if I accept the fact that the girl can choose to walk away and not care, and just talk very slowly and with a smile in my face. The girl warms to me easily.
Delaying the first couple of approaches is always suicide on a night out, it is imperative to approach early and get the momentum building, otherwise I’ll get stuck in my head more and more as time passes, and will go home pissed off and angry with myself.
It’s important to have self belief, and look at the girl thinking sexual thoughts, or like lovers staring in each others eyes like we’ve already made love and just enjoying the moment together. This will make the girl feel the same thing as well and make me feel confident.
Another thing that really messes up my night out is that when I don’t approach from early on I make it more and more hard on myself by being all tense, this is really bad for my state and confidence, and I need to either stop kicking myself in the backside or just get stuck in and approaching early on.
