I went out today in order to chat up girls in a loud club, however I found myself facing a lot of difficulty in achieving any twngiable results. I found that I’d struggle a lot to approach, and when I do approach and break the ice, I struggle to hold a good conversation.
Maybe this is happening because this is my first day out in ages, or it could be because my beleifs are holding me back
Either way, I have been asked to write down my current beliefs about myself, not what I want to beleive about myslef, or the glossed over positive self, but the deeper self, that is the core of myself which controls my knee jerk (instinctual reaction). To create new positive beleifs, one must destroy any existing beliefs which contradict the new beleifs.
I don’t have power in society
I’m not in control of my life
I have to act like someoe I’m not in order to save face
I don’t take any risks
I have to rely on getting lucky with fat and ugly girls to get anywhere
Being an ethnic minority I’m automatically seen as less attractive that white people
I don’t enjoy exchanging banter with women
I don’t enjoy being friends with women, and get jealous why they fancy other guys
I only want stuff from women
I think women are uncomfortable around me.
I can’t hold a good conversation long enough
I have to rely on people to like me before I can be myself
I’m not as worthy or good as other guys
I am not funny normally, and need to be encouraged a lot to bring that side out
I don’t trust my judgement
Other’s don’t trust my lead
I only talk to people when I need something
I don’t trust that people are interested in anything I have to say
I am intimidated by people who I perceive as cooler than me
I get along Ok with guys, but girls are repelled by me
When I’m having a conversation with a woman, I’m thinking of the end goal, and feel nothing good will ever happen between us
I’m worried that the girl will find out the real me and won’t like me
Women are generally not into me personality wyse
Women want a guy with experience, and I’m not that guy
I can only succeed with woman if I’m the only guy around and I know she has no other choice
Woman are generally polyamourous so will sleep with other guys and hurt me
That’s all I can think of right now, there are porbably more issues out there.
On a positive note, he’s a nice video which should cheer anyone up.
And some of my positive sides.
Most guys think I’m pretty successful in life, so there must be some truth in that
I am tall and good looking
Whenever I go out I get checked out by girls at least a few times
I’m a clear thinker, and know myself well
I can speak coherently and articulate myself well
Most people think I’m pretty cool
I have friends who are close to me, and call me now and again
I have a decent education and a good head resting on my shoulders
I have improved myself a lot, and stand a good chance of improving myself even further
I’ve learnt to make and keep friends, something I couldn’t do earlier.
