I read a forum post, a guy basically wrote a long wided post about why things aren’t going right for him, and basically feeling sorry for himself. I saw the thread and realised that it was relevant for me. I’ve reposted it on here for all to see.
You’ve got a real attitude problem mate.
Firstly, absolutely no-one owes you anything.
Despite you thinking you’re so great, that doesn’t mean anything. You are defined by your actions and you’re weasly because you only put this ‘effort’ in in order to get something back.
The moment anything goes against you, you blame someone else.
This is because you’re deeply insecure and it strikes at the nerve and the thought about yourself that you trully hate- that you’re not worthy.
Therefore you spin between your imaginary value of yourself, and the resultant fall from grace when the reality does not match your imagination. It must be ‘their’ fault.
The reason you don’t push yourself after two years is because you desperately don’t want to defile or lose your perceived inner reality of yourself (your amazing potential and how much ‘effort’ you put in) by bearing it to the light of the truer reality and the side of yourself you feel insecure about.
I am one of many many guys here on this forum who learnt insane amounts about theirself by learning about the power of honesty with girls. You so far have not had the guts to take up that spear and join the battlefield.
You have only yourself to blame.
You keep on thinking you’re owed something. You’re not. Sorry.
In outer terms, you have a very very nasty habit in terms of your reaction to negative stimulus. It spirals you into your horrendous energy-sucky negative perception of yourself, which you then throw out by blaming it on others.
There’s actually a lot for you to gain here. Until you get rid of your horrendous attitude, that’s not going to happen.
I really like this advice and want to share this with you guys, and also have this around for myself as a reminder.
